Praying - Amy Lawrence

Praying

A Study on Communication

Amy Lawrence

As I write this, I am thinking how unqualified I am to be discussing something I struggle with myself. Don’t get me wrong, the desire to pray is not the trouble. God’s command to pray is for our benefit, not His, Phil. 4:6-7. The struggle is remembering to talk to God without making it nothing but a check in a box. Communication - real, deep communication - is one of my shortcomings. There is only so much of myself that I let be seen. I have my reasons, but I tend to be reserved in any relationship. Rare is the person that can get me to feel comfortable enough to fully open up. I’ve built that habit in my communication with God as well. When I remember (but not as frequently as I should) that my shortcomings shouldn’t keep me from talking to God, I pray. He knows me better than anybody already. There is nothing that is hidden from Him - not even our insecurities - and He still loves us all. That knowledge makes me speak from my heart to the only One that can see the picture in my head before I utter a single word.

As we study together, my desire is that we have a better understanding of prayer that will make us see it for what God intended it to be in our lives and put that into practice. As part of the introduction to this study, let me ask some questions. Does it matter who prays? What should be the quality of our prayers? Where should we pray? How often should we pray? Is there a right or wrong way to pray? The word of God can answer.

Let’s begin with defining the idea of prayer. Before we can define what prayer is, we must first establish what prayer isn’t. It is a common belief that God is this magical force that exists only to grant our wishes. Too many don’t believe or stop believing in God because they pray and think they don’t get an answer, ignoring or dismissing the possibility that God’s answer was “no”. David prayed. God’s answer was no, 2 Sam. 12. He continued to be a servant of God. Jesus prayed. God’s answer was no, Mt. 26. He continued to the cross. Paul prayed. God’s answer was

no, 2 Cor. 12:7-10. He continued in a life of poverty, pain, and peril, 2 Cor. 11:22-29, knowing that it would in the end lead to rest, 2 Tim. 4:6-8. God is not an ATM that fulfills our selfish desires. He is our Creator and knows better than we do what we want and need. Praying is our form of communication with God. It is the avenue created by the Almighty to make our requests known to Him, Phil. 4:6. (Does this mean God doesn’t already know? Absolutely not, Mt. 6:8. He still requires we ASK, Mt. 7:7-8.) It is the method we have of thanking God for giving us what we need - and many times what we want, Col. 3:17, Phil. 4:6, and it is the place our hearts go when we are overwhelmed, Ps. 61:2, Rom. 8:26.

Does it matter who prays? Paul wrote to Timothy that only men are to pray aloud in a worship assembly, 1 Tim. 2:8. Does this mean women cannot pray at all in the assembly? We can pray in worship services - just not out loud, 1 Cor. 14:34. James wrote that the “fervent prayer of the righteous” is the most beneficial, James 5:16…but what about the unrighteous? Recorded in Proverbs 15:29, God’s ear is “far from the wicked”. Isaiah wrote that God “will not hear” the unrighteous, Is. 59:1-2. God told Jeremiah not to pray for Judah, Jeremiah 14:11-12. Why? The answer is found in verse 10. They had no desire to follow God and His commandments, therefore God refused to hear them. It matters who prays. Let’s be clear here, though. We should pray for all; including the unrighteous, that they find their way to God, 1 Tim. 2:1. What God disallowed Jeremiah to pray for (and disallows us today, 1 Jn. 5:16) was for God to forgive the sins of the unrepentant. A person that is made aware of sin and still refuses to make their life right in the sight of God is one who has made the choice to remain beyond reach, Is. 59:1-2, 1 Pet. 3:12.

What should be the quality of our prayers? The quality is as important as the quantity. In my personal experience, my prayers vary. Sometimes it is a brief prayer, Jn. 11:41-42, sometimes it is an intense hour of talking with God, Mt. 14:23-25. I talk differently in private versus leading a prayer in the ladies’ Bible class, i.e. personal details and mannerisms compared with general topics concerning the church as a whole to a public audience. It would not be appropriate for me to make a personal, individual prayer when leading others in prayer, nor should my prayers be routine and practiced to the point of robotic habit, Mt. 6:7. There are many factors to be considered in prayer. First and foremost, the condition of the heart determines if a prayer is received, Ps. 51:15-17. One that has the right kind of heart will keep God’s commandments, 1 Jn. 3:22. Respect and honor are also due the One to whom we speak, Jude 24-25. He has earned it. Emotions also play a large part in the quality of prayers, Phil. 1:3-4, Rom. 15:30, Mk.

14:32-34. My most frequent emotions are joy and thankfulness, Phil. 4:4, Col. 3:15, but there have been times when confusion, frustration, anger, and overwhelming sadness were a part of my prayers. Paul was confused, Acts 9:4-6. Moses was frustrated, Ex. 15:23-26, and angry, Num.

16:12-15. Job was overwhelmed with sadness, Job 3, as was Jesus, Lk. 22:44. What these all have in common is that they talked to God about it. We must remember that we can always talk with God…but sometimes we need help. This is a job for the Helper, Jn. 14:16. Who is this? The Holy Spirit! As Christ intercedes for us through sacrifice, Heb. 7:25-28, the Holy Spirit intercedes for us through prayer, Rom. 8:26-27, Eph. 6:18. Our prayers can be spoken with the assurance that the One listening has all the answers, Rom. 8:28.

Where should we pray? There is no wifi on the planet like prayer. We can pray from anywhere, and there is no interference or disconnection. Solomon prayed from a scaffold, 2 Chr. 6:13. Elijah sat beneath a juniper tree as he talked with God, 1 Kings 19:4. Paul and Silas lifted up prayer while in prison, Acts 16:25. Nowhere is beyond God’s ability to hear, not even our own minds, 1 Sam. 1:9-15. It is no wonder; God is everywhere, 2 Chr. 16:9, Ps. 34:15. (It is up to our good sense to know if where we are is a good place to pray out loud or not.)

How often should we pray? I will first admit that my prayers are not as frequent as they should be. On days when I am on point, I pray intermittently from the time I wake until the time I lay back down to sleep, 1 Thess. 5:17. There is no wrong time to pray and no such thing as praying too much. We must, however, be careful if we are not praying enough.

Is there a right or wrong way to pray?1 Jn. 5:14 “And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to His will, he hears us…” Anything we ask of God must be in congruence with both the will of God and the laws that He has established by which we must live. One cannot pray according to God’s will if one does not know God’s will. Once there exists in Christians a knowledge of the commands and nature of God, this allows us to pray as we ought - fervently, unselfishly, and in accordance with God’s purpose, Lk. 11:1-4.

When we bare our souls to God through prayer regularly, this allows the peace Christ offers to settle in and take up residence in our hearts, Phil. 4:6-7. No such peace is found anywhere else. I hope this study has brought as much enlightenment to your prayer life as it has to mine.